When You Feel More Dead Then Alive

I recently republished a post I wrote last year on what makes us come alive. Knowing what makes us come alive is important to helping us come to understand our core values – which in turn helps us to sift and sort through the competing messages we have in our heads.

But then someone messaged me and said, “I think a lot of people cannot even answer the question. Between jobs and kids and life…what make people come alive often gets buried and can be hard to figure out. And what if what makes you come alive is at odds with real life?”

Which were fantastic questions, so I thought I would try to answer them today. 

“Not Lying” vs. “Telling the Truth”

Learning to tell the truth means getting honest about our emotions and about our motivations. Learning to tell the truth means getting honest about our pain and our limitations, about our hopes and our dreams. Learning to tell the truth means learning how to tell those things to other people, yes, but possibly more important than anything else, it means learning how to tell these truths to ourselves.

Human Bill of Rights

A few weeks’ back I discovered an incredible resource by Peter Walker. Okay, it was actually just a simple list, but as I read it through I realized that even though I loved all of the things on this list, I had never accepted that they were true for me. Which was brain-boggling for me. How had I gotten this far into life without realizing that these things could be true for me? 

I Always Wished …

Disability is a tricky thing.

No one would say that there was a hierarchy – we would say that everyone was equally valuable.

But the truth of the matter is that some conditions are sexy – they get money and press and attention and extra resources and walks and big, multi-million-dollar foundations.

And other conditions are rare.

Other conditions are quiet.

Other conditions get passed over and missed out.