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Unmasking with the Values Based Integration Process

Remember to Breathe

The power of breathing is fascinating to me.

As a doula, I learned the deep power of breath to calm a woman down, to help her to focus, to help her to loosen her muscles, even to help her lessen her pain.

In yoga I learned the deep power of breath to help identify points of tension in my own body that I hadn’t even been aware of before.

As Trevor’s running coach, I am discovering the power of breath to get him through the panic that comes from training hard, or the effort of pushing me in a stroller up a very steep hill.

Emotional regulation strategies almost always include breathing strategies, such as the Six Sides of Breathing and Lazy 8 Breathing (both of which can be found in the Zones of Regulation materials.)

six sides of breathing

Lazy 8 Breathing

With all of these different experiences of breath, I’ve found myself using breathing in my everyday life more and more. I notice a bit of tension in my jaw – remember to breathe I tell myself – and the tension fades away. I’m wheeling into an important doctor’s appointment – remember to breathe. I’m having an intense conversation with a friend – remember to breathe. I’m scheduling what has no choice but to be a busy week – remember to put in time to breathe.

That single act – that single moment – can make all the difference to our capacity to stay grounded, to be our best version of ourself, to think clearly or act wisely or perform at our best.

Whether you struggle with anxiety or walk around free as a bird, a simple breath can improve your outlook in incredible ways.

So today, as we all think about a new school year, and the upcoming joys and stresses that might come with it, I encourage you to simply remember to breathe.

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About the program

In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.

Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!

After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.


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