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Unmasking with the Values Based Integration Process

Human Bill of Rights

Close up of eight of the human bill of rights images

A few weeks’ back I discovered an incredible resource by Peter Walker. Okay, it was actually just a simple list, but as I read it through I realized that even though I loved all of the things on this list, I had never accepted that they were true for me. Which was brain-boggling for me. How had I gotten this far into life without realizing that these things could be true for me?

Well, I figured that there is no time like the present to make changes in my life, so I started thinking about how I could capture these ideas so that they could start to be real in my life, and I came up with the following graphic:

Human Bill Of Rights


As I went through it, I realized how many of the hard, tricky bits that have happened in my past came down to me not understanding these concepts. For example, I wasn’t good at saying ‘no’ so I ended up saying ‘yes’ far too often and burning out. I didn’t know that I could reject unsolicited feedback from people – especially those in authority – so I took onto myself all sorts of unasked for and unhelpful ‘advice’ and ‘suggestions’ that made it feel more and more difficult to go through life. And it’s been years since I knew that I was allowed to or able to play or rest or ‘waste time’.

The risk at that point was that I might start to beat myself up or feel like this was just another indication that I was a failure.

But I very quickly started to realize that in spite of having lots of messages around me and sloshing through me over the years that had said I didn’t deserve any of these things, or they weren’t true for me, my values had continued to push me forward to understanding these truths. My value of honesty had forced me to realize that I had my own opinions and thoughts and beliefs on a number of issues that I didn’t necessarily share with the authority figures I had been holding up in my life. My value of connection had pushed me to build healthy and mutually supportive relationships, which I am so grateful for. And my value of transformation had pushed me to continue to grow, evolve and prosper to become the best ‘Heather’ I can be.

So my question is – how can you see your values at work in helping you to become the best version of yourself possible? How can you look at this list and see how far you’ve come? And how can you tap into your values to reorient yourself towards healthier practices today?

If you’re interested in getting a better handle on your values to help you become more fully the person you’re looking to be, I’d love to chat more with you

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About the program

In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.

Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!

After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.


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