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Unmasking with the Values Based Integration Process

Lean In

Trevor and I have been married now for over twenty years – and they haven’t been easy years, either! For the longest time we really struggled when the stress levels shot up, because we were scared they would break us. So we would pull away – from each other, from the situation, from the hard feelings or from all three!!

Unfortunately that response only made things worse!

One of our healing practices has been to lean in. Lean in to the situation. Lean in to the hard feelings. Lean in to each other. But I’m not going to lie and pretend that’s been easy! We’ve had to really work to find ways to be successful at this, and one of our most effective techniques is to MOVE TOGETHER. Whether it’s going to a run together like we did this weekend or going for a long drive or going out in a canoe, moving together helps us lean in to each other. And that in turn has had massively positive impacts on our relationship.

What have you found helpful in getting through the stressful moments?

How do you lean in best to your partner?


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About the program

In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.

Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!

After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.


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