Trevor and I have been married now for over twenty years – and they haven’t been easy years, either! For the longest time we really struggled when the stress levels shot up, because we were scared they would break us. So we would pull away – from each other, from the situation, from the hard feelings or from all three!!
Unfortunately that response only made things worse!
One of our healing practices has been to lean in. Lean in to the situation. Lean in to the hard feelings. Lean in to each other. But I’m not going to lie and pretend that’s been easy! We’ve had to really work to find ways to be successful at this, and one of our most effective techniques is to MOVE TOGETHER. Whether it’s going to a run together like we did this weekend or going for a long drive or going out in a canoe, moving together helps us lean in to each other. And that in turn has had massively positive impacts on our relationship.
What have you found helpful in getting through the stressful moments?
How do you lean in best to your partner?