Yesterday we talked about the value of being present in the midst of our activities - specifically physical activities such as running. Today I want to get a bit more curious ...
One of the things you will often hear me grumble about in my race reports is when people where headphones during races. It's about safety in part, but what if there was more to it than that?
I was thinking about how hard it is to notice these losses and grieve them as we go. We often seem to jump to dismissing our grief in the hopes that by dismissing it the pain won't be as bad. We decide that they're 'silly' or they 'don't count' and sometimes actively minimize them to try to gain a sense of 'control' over the randomness of the experience. Sometimes the changes happen so slowly or silently that we miss that the loss has even happened - so we miss the chance or the need to grieve. But the problem is that when we don't deal well with grief it doesn't just disappear.
When we train, we do a lot of base training - training at a pace slow enough for Trevor to be able to engage in conversation with me. Aside from turning training into date-time, this builds up his cardio and his endurance over weeks and months, and we've seen quite significant improvements using this technique. Since I can't see Trevor running, I use my ears to listen to the rhythm and cadence of his footfalls, and to listen to his breath to help him dial back or pick up the pace accordingly. And when we get to the hills, we have a little mantra, "deep breaths and baby steps".
So we've spent the last few weeks talking about getting to know the different parts of who we are - heart, soul, mind (part 1 and part 2) and body. We talked about how important it was for us to get to know these different parts of us, because each of these parts are designed to work together to help us to function in the best way possible. But what does that look like? How do we get to the point where we know the answers to these questions? The first step is simply to become more aware. We start by tuning in.