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Unmasking with the Values Based Integration Process

Perspective

Perspective is an interesting thing, isn’t it? When we were in Toronto this week, we stayed in a condo overnight and I had this unusual view out my bedroom window. Everything seemed both larger and tinier than in real life…

Some perspectives are comfortable for us. Others leave us feeling off-kilter.

Having lived my entire life in the suburbs, I didn’t realise just how uncomfortable this perspective would feel for me until I was there. But it turns out I *really* don’t like heights, and I also feel claustrophobic if I can’t see the sky, and it took me a while to be able to appreciate this view.

 

Perspective differences don’t just crop up when I’m 33-storeys high. In fact, in my context they’re far more common in my relationships with my teens and partner, with my extended family, with my friends and neighbors.

 

So what do we do? We get HONEST about them. We NAME the existence of the difference so that we become AWARE of what is going on.

 

Then we GROUND ourselves in our values, so that we feel SECURE.

 

Finally, we bring our honest, grounded selves to the conversation with a COMPASSIONATE CURIOSITY about the other person’s perspective.

 

And, if we’re lucky, we’ll discover the BEAUTY hiding behind what we previously could only fear.

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About the program

In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.

Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!

After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.

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