Yesterday we talked about the value of being present in the midst of our activities - specifically physical activities such as running. Today I want to get a bit more curious ...
It was years ago now when a friend who had adopted two little girls with FASD (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder) told me about the 10:1 ratio. The idea was that for every one word of correction that we receive we need another ten words of praise and affirmation. That's because our brains are really good at filtering out and dismissing the good things we hear - and we're even better at remember the negative.
On Wednesday we talked about 'Otherworld' and the idea that the world revolved around more than just me. And we talked about the fact that this kind of thinking makes it easy for us to misinterpret people's motives and intentions and end up assuming that people are being 'deliberate and malicious' far more frequently than they actually are. Having identified the problem, now we have to figure out how to get to a solution. And I think that the solution is to assume that there's probably an explanation for the behaviour, and then get curious and see if we can figure it out!
One of the most powerful tools in the journey towards wholeness is compassionate curiosity. That's because many of us go about our days doing things and reacting and interacting with other people without ever stopping and thinking about why we do what we do. But what if there was always a reason for the things that we did?… Continue reading Tools in your Toolbox – Compassionate Curiosity