Grounded Not Bounded
One of the realities of developing a condition that involves a significant amount of fatigue is that you end up hearing an awful lot about the need to set boundaries. And as a parent of kids with autism, and a wife to a husband with autism – as a person who wants and even needs… Continue reading
Tools in your Toolbox – What Makes You Come Alive?
One of the first questions that we need to ask with our compassionate curiosity is what makes you come alive? The reason is simple – all of us are exposed to lots of different voices, from lots of different directions. Everyone wants to tell us how to live, how to think, how to make decisions, what… Continue reading
What if each one of us was created to be a unique, integrated person – with our heart, soul, mind and strength working together to help us to do the things we were created to do and be the person we were made to be? What if each one of us experienced brokenness – over… Continue reading
New Coaching Training Dates – August 10-11, 2023
Coaches Trainings continue to be a huge success! The feedback we got from our coaches and therapists continues to encourage and inspire the work we are doing. Here’s what some of them had to say: “This is an actually effective method to identify through narrative, deconstruct through simple analysis, and rename/reconstruct messages that works to… Continue reading
There is a concept within the Autistic Community called ‘masking’, but it applies to many people across many different diversity axes. That’s because masking is basically the work we do to try to blend in with those around us – to try to pretend that we are someone that we are not – less autistic,… Continue reading
My new chair has given me a new perspective on the world. It’s incredible to me to be able to sit taller than I could ever stand, and it makes me realise the power of different perspectives or lenses on how we see and understand the world – our perspecticals. The lens we use to… Continue reading
Perspective is an interesting thing, isn’t it? When we were in Toronto this week, we stayed in a condo overnight and I had this unusual view out my bedroom window. Everything seemed both larger and tinier than in real life… Some perspectives are comfortable for us. Others leave us feeling off-kilter. Having lived my entire… Continue reading
Why Everyone Needs a Personal Mission Statement – and Four Steps to Get Started On Your Own
That’s because all of us – whether high-flyers or bedridden – have more inputs coming at us every day than we can process, so all of us need some system for deciding which things to do and which things to put off or pass over. Continue reading
When You Feel More Dead Then Alive
I recently republished a post I wrote last year on what makes us come alive. Knowing what makes us come alive is important to helping us come to understand our core values – which in turn helps us to sift and sort through the competing messages we have in our heads. But then someone messaged… Continue reading
When Disintegration Is A Good Thing
I grew up in a world that liked it’s boxes. It liked being able to slot people and activities and music and styles of dress and relationships and beliefs neatly into categories that they then used to judge those very beliefs and relationships and styles of dress and music and activities and people. The world I… Continue reading
About the program
In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.
Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!
After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.