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Unmasking with the Values Based Integration Process


Straightening the Walls

“What are you doing today?”

“We’re straightening the walls.”

(Wishes they had said something exciting like “the roof is going up”, then thinks about it for an extra second and realises the last thing I’d want is a roof on top of crooked walls…)

“Good. I appreciate straight walls!”

 

Watching a house be built is both an incredibly quick and an incredibly slow process.

 

Every time I go over to visit, more work has been completed, but also, I don’t think days and weeks have crawled by this slowly since I was a kid waiting for Christmas or summer vacation!

 

Here’s the thing, though. We WANT the walls to be straight. We WANT the floor to be level. We WANT the pipes to line up and the windows to open the right direction and ten thousand other details (literally) to be correct, BECAUSE THIS IS GOING TO BE OUR HOME.

 

We’re going to LIVE here – hopefully for the rest of our lives!

 

So we want it to be done well.

 

The same is true with life work. Sometimes it’s a big day when a wall comes down or we have a Big Breakthrough Moment. But BBM’s are only one element of the work we need to do, and the quality of the life that we will build is not found exclusively in these moments, but interwoven into the ten thousand other moments that help us create a stable, solid foundation to live off of.

 

When was the last time you paused for a moment to straighten your walls?



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About the program

In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.

Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!

After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.

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