There is a concept within the Autistic Community called ‘masking’, but it applies to many people across many different diversity axes. That’s because masking is basically the work we do to try to blend in with those around us – to try to pretend that we are someone that we are not – less autistic, less queer, less disabled, less ADHD … less us. In particular, these ideas are often introduced or reinforced with behavioural methods such as ABA/IBI or conversion therapy.
After three years of living mostly in physical isolation, I’ve learned a fair amount about this way of doing life. As such I figured I’d put out some resources over the coming days to share some of what I’ve learned. Tool #1 – Rhythm, Ritual and Rest *Create rhythms to your day, marked by whenContinue reading “Tools for Life in Physical Isolation”
Some suggestions for emotional self regulation during hard times: Create intentional PLANS and SCHEDULES to help organise your day and increase your sense of AGENCY and CONTROL. Don’t be afraid to Make these plans VISUAL in a notebook or on a board. Use MOVEMENT and CREATIVITY to allow your body to process stress as itContinue reading “Emotional Regulation in Hard Times”
Sometimes it’s hard to describe what I do as a coach – and why you might need a coach – because it can vary so greatly. So here are a few thoughts: If you are the parent of an LGBTQ child, struggling to know how to support your child, I can help. If you areContinue reading “How I Can Help”
And the walls came tumbling down! Our accessibility build involves connecting an existing, older structure to a new extension. Part of making that possible requires that some of the walls of both the original foundation and the original structure get moved/removed to allow flow from one space to the next. It was really interesting toContinue reading “Deep Breaths and Baby Steps”
Work continues on the #accessiblehouse although you wouldn’t know it from above! All of the work the past two weeks has been underground, but when I sent someone down to take pictures it turned out that @communitybuildersbarrie has been very busy! As impatient as we are to get into this new house, we are working hard toContinue reading “Under the Surface”
It’s a cold and snowy morning but our footings for our foundation went in this morning. I always knew how important foundations were, but I hadn’t ever realised the level of work that has to go in BEFORE the foundation. These footings have been in the works for a couple of weeks now. The barsContinue reading “Foundations”
This is our main street in Barrie right now. If you had driven down it a few months ago, you never would have noticed there was a problem. It wasn’t terribly bumpy. There weren’t any potholes or sinkholes or anything else to give it away. But the pipes deep underground were getting old. People withContinue reading “Doing the ‘Big Dig’ On Life”
That’s because all of us – whether high-flyers or bedridden – have more inputs coming at us every day than we can process, so all of us need some system for deciding which things to do and which things to put off or pass over.