Coaching

Safe, Known and Precious

We are all born with an inbuilt need to connect with other humans. Unlike many of our animal kingdom cousins, humans are born - and remain for a very long time - intensely dependent on the adults in their world to care for them and look after them. Because of this, we crave the continuous knowledge that we are safe. The baby who cries when you put him or her down does so because to be put down means you might get left behind when the hunter-gatherer tribe moves on to the next set of fruit trees. The baby who only sleeps when it's close enough to it's mother's breast that it can smell the milk does so because to be separated from it's food supply means certain death. And the baby who kicks and flails whenever it's having its diaper changed does so because the nervous system is so underdeveloped that it becomes completely overwhelmed by the enormous amount of sensory stimuli assaulting it's brain all at once. Before we can learn anything else, we have to guarantee that we will survive - that we will be safe. But more than that...