Today I want to finish off our week-long series by looking at what we can do when this happens to help ourselves or our loved ones heal.
I was sitting with a friend the other day and she asked me, "Heather, what exactly is a life coach? What do you do?" And I figured maybe she wasn't the only one who was uncertain...
Sitting with requires that we allow ourselves to feel the feelings of loss and grief, fear, rejection, being silenced or abandoned. It's difficult, but difficult isn't the same as impossible.
Affirmation, support, responding to bids, giving words and celebration - those are our five keys to attachment from 0 - 18 and beyond. When we put these together with the other ideas we've explored this month, we find we can be increasingly successful at raising adults by the age of 18!
We've already talked about affirmation, support and bids. Today we want to look at the power of giving words as another step in helping our child feel known.
Our kids are busy learning on every axes of life - social, emotional, physical and mental - and that means that often things are going to happen that they simply don't understand themselves.
Today we look at "bids" - the way that we as humans make it known that we need a little more support, engagement or attachment.
This week we are looking at five ways of helping to give our kids the attachment - the sense of safety and connectedness that comes from feeling seen, known and precious - that allows them to learn and develop to reach their full potential. Today, we are looking at the idea of support.