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When Disintegration Is A Good Thing
I grew up in a world that liked it’s boxes. It liked being able to slot people and activities and music and styles of dress and relationships and beliefs neatly into categories that they then used to judge those very beliefs and relationships and styles of dress and music and activities and people. The world I… Continue reading
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Be Careful Where You Park
I was sixteen when I first got my driver’s license, and as a driver, one of the earliest things I learned how to do is to park. That’s because knowing where and how to park your car is essential to coming back to your car where you left it, in one piece, and in a… Continue reading
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Remember … Being Small Matters
I am a small person – stature wise. I’m a little more than a hundred pounds soaking wet; when I can stand I can claim 4′ 10″ if I’m wearing my shoes but in a wheelchair I’m nowhere near that height. I spend most days in a small space – my living room – working… Continue reading
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When Life Cracks and Breaks
I was thinking about how hard it is to notice these losses and grieve them as we go. We often seem to jump to dismissing our grief in the hopes that by dismissing it the pain won’t be as bad. We decide that they’re ‘silly’ or they ‘don’t count’ and sometimes actively minimize them to try… Continue reading
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Emotional Workflow
One of the things I didn’t learn well growing up – maybe because of my autism, or maybe because of my experiences of gaslighting – was which things were emotionally my responsibility, and which things were not my responsibility. Continue reading
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Love Powered Politics
I’m okay with political disagreement. But what concerns me is the move towards a politics of fear from both sides of the political perspective. As you may have guessed, I think we can choose to vote out of fear or vote out of love. Continue reading
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Transformation – Part 3
We like to think that we can separate off a portion of ourselves – acknowledge on some level that it’s broken and damaged so segregate it from the rest of ourselves – and then hope that we can carry on. Our desire is to prevent those around us from getting hurt, but the situation is… Continue reading
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Transformation – Part 2
Change – movement – growth – these things don’t happen by sitting still, and they don’t happen overnight, either. Like any athlete will tell you, it’s the small things, done intentionally over long periods of time that create the biggest gains and improvements. So if transformation is our goal, we will need to set aside… Continue reading
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Transformation – Part 1
In our world of media hype and multi-level marketing – of promises and pitches and promotions – I’m pretty cautious about the idea of touting anything. And yet… What would be the point of doing all of this work of honesty if it didn’t change anything? What would be the point of doing all of this… Continue reading
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Connection – Part 3
I wrote on Monday about the importance of connection, and how much of a difference it has made in our lives. Then I wrote on Wednesday about the barriers we face to connection. (If you haven’t had a chance to read these yet, I would really encourage you to go back and do so.) Today I want… Continue reading
About the program
In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.
Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!
After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.
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