I was sitting with a friend the other day and she asked me, "Heather, what exactly is a life coach? What do you do?" And I figured maybe she wasn't the only one who was uncertain...
Today we're going to finish our 'back-to-school checklist'. We've already looked at 'next right steps' and 'celebration', and today we're moving on to Rhythm, Ritual and Rest.
The wonderful thing about 'next right steps' parenting is that it gives us lots of chances to CELEBRATE with our child! And children desperately need more celebration!
This week I want to remind you of three of my favourite tools for raising adults by 18 - 'next right steps', celebration, and rhythm, ritual and rest.
Affirmation, support, responding to bids, giving words and celebration - those are our five keys to attachment from 0 - 18 and beyond. When we put these together with the other ideas we've explored this month, we find we can be increasingly successful at raising adults by the age of 18!
While I have seen charts saying children should reach this skill by such-and-such an age, or showing what chores kids should do in what grades, I think it's incredibly important to realize that each of our children are unique, and each will develop in slightly different ways and slightly different speeds. This is particularly true for children who have neurodevelopmental issues such as autism, physical disabilities such as club foot or those who were born prematurely. Because of this, my recommendation is to create a list of skills that you want your child to develop along each of these axes - heart, soul, mind and body - and for each of the values that you want your child to learn.
Last week we talked about how our values should be used as the basis for our parenting plan. How we need to figure out where we're trying to get to before we can create a plan for how to get there, just like we need a destination before we can plot a course of travel on a map. But once we have the destination how do we create the plan?