The wonderful thing about 'next right steps' parenting is that it gives us lots of chances to CELEBRATE with our child! And children desperately need more celebration!
This week I want to remind you of three of my favourite tools for raising adults by 18 - 'next right steps', celebration, and rhythm, ritual and rest.
Learning to tell the truth means getting honest about our emotions and about our motivations. Learning to tell the truth means getting honest about our pain and our limitations, about our hopes and our dreams. Learning to tell the truth means learning how to tell those things to other people, yes, but possibly more important than anything else, it means learning how to tell these truths to ourselves.
Affirmation, support, responding to bids, giving words and celebration - those are our five keys to attachment from 0 - 18 and beyond. When we put these together with the other ideas we've explored this month, we find we can be increasingly successful at raising adults by the age of 18!
We've already talked about affirmation, support and bids. Today we want to look at the power of giving words as another step in helping our child feel known. Our kids are busy learning on every axes of life - social, emotional, physical and mental - and that means that often things are going to happen that they simply don't understand themselves.
Today we look at "bids" - the way that we as humans make it known that we need a little more support, engagement or attachment.
This week we are looking at five ways of helping to give our kids the attachment - the sense of safety and connectedness that comes from feeling seen, known and precious - that allows them to learn and develop to reach their full potential. Today, we are looking at the idea of support.