We’ve been looking at used accessible vans this weekend. So far, not good. We don’t have a lot for this purchase, because the #accessiblehouse is taking all of our pennies and then some this year. Now don’t get me wrong. The vans look pretty on the top and seem to run like a champ, but you getContinue reading “In Trouble”
I don’t talk a lot about the pain part of my life. I somehow got the idea at a very young age that people don’t like to hear about pain – that it upsets them – and that as a result you shouldn’t ever talk about it. I also – in general – think thatContinue reading “Pain”
Trevor and I have been married now for over twenty years – and they haven’t been easy years, either! For the longest time we really struggled when the stress levels shot up, because we were scared they would break us. So we would pull away – from each other, from the situation, from the hardContinue reading “Lean In”
Today is National Coming Out day. This is a picture of my husband and I at our local Pride Parade this summer wearing t-shirts that said “Free Mom Hugs” and “Free Dad Hugs”. But we are more than allies. We are a straight-passing, mixed orientation marriage. That means that, in my case, I am attractedContinue reading “National Coming Out Day”
This is our main street in Barrie right now. If you had driven down it a few months ago, you never would have noticed there was a problem. It wasn’t terribly bumpy. There weren’t any potholes or sinkholes or anything else to give it away. But the pipes deep underground were getting old. People withContinue reading “Doing the ‘Big Dig’ On Life”
Part of finding healthy ways to live for us has been learning strategies and techniques for dealing well with the stress. But no matter how good a toolkit you have, it’s only as good as your ability to access it when life gets stressful!
With the advent of a wheelchair as my primary mode of movement, I wondered whether I would ever get back into the wilderness again. And then we did.
Welcome to a fantastic journey – one you never asked for, signed up for or (probably) trained for. As much as it feels that your world has come crashing down around you, or that you can’t possibly handle this, the truth is more complicated than that. The truth is that there will be high’s and lo’s to this journey that you may only be able to appreciate down the road. The truth is also that you already have the one key ingredient for success: you love your child.
I realized this week that there might be a fifth fear response: force.
That’s because all of us – whether high-flyers or bedridden – have more inputs coming at us every day than we can process, so all of us need some system for deciding which things to do and which things to put off or pass over.