Coaching
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“Perfection”

I struggled with the word perfect for years and years and years. It felt like this impossible state that I had to somehow already have achieved with a password, able body and infinite bank account I didn’t have. That is, until one day I was talking to my sister-in-law, who has her Ph.D. in Old Continue reading
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Stuck

This was me, completely stuck in the slush yesterday. It wasn’t “that much” so I thought I would be fine. Until I wasn’t. I thought my power chair had enough oomph for the job. Until it didn’t. There was nobody with me, so I don’t have the option of showing you the “big picture”. But Continue reading
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A ‘Third Way’

Do you ever feel backed into a corner in an argument? Or forced to choose sides between polarizing forces? Perhaps in your intimate partner or family relationships? Perhaps in our wider, increasingly divisive social sphere? One of the biggest relationship-savers that Trevor and I have discovered over the last few years is to recognize when Continue reading
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In Trouble

We’ve been looking at used accessible vans this weekend. So far, not good. We don’t have a lot for this purchase, because the #accessiblehouse is taking all of our pennies and then some this year. Now don’t get me wrong. The vans look pretty on the top and seem to run like a champ, but you get Continue reading
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Doing the ‘Big Dig’ On Life

This is our main street in Barrie right now. If you had driven down it a few months ago, you never would have noticed there was a problem. It wasn’t terribly bumpy. There weren’t any potholes or sinkholes or anything else to give it away. But the pipes deep underground were getting old. People with Continue reading
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Meet – Move – Make

Part of finding healthy ways to live for us has been learning strategies and techniques for dealing well with the stress. But no matter how good a toolkit you have, it’s only as good as your ability to access it when life gets stressful! Continue reading
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To A New Special Needs Parent As My Eldest Leaves For University

Welcome to a fantastic journey – one you never asked for, signed up for or (probably) trained for. As much as it feels that your world has come crashing down around you, or that you can’t possibly handle this, the truth is more complicated than that. The truth is that there will be high’s and… Continue reading
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The Fifth Fear Response

I realized this week that there might be a fifth fear response: force. Continue reading
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Why Everyone Needs a Personal Mission Statement – and Four Steps to Get Started On Your Own

That’s because all of us – whether high-flyers or bedridden – have more inputs coming at us every day than we can process, so all of us need some system for deciding which things to do and which things to put off or pass over. Continue reading
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On Grieving

A year ago I was sitting in bed mid-way through watching ‘Beauty and the Beast’ with my daughter when the phone rang. Through sobs and gasps I heard a very good friend utter the devastating words … “he’s dead”. Her world had shattered in a heartbeat – completely out of the blue. That morning her Continue reading
About the program
In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.
Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!
After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.
