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Trauma, Triggers and Moving Forward
Back in 2011 I was given the opportunity to expand my birth work to include working with women who had experienced sexual abuse. In doing the training for this role, I began to read more and more about trauma and especially about triggers. And the more I read about triggers, the more I realized that… Continue reading
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Grief, Not Guilt
And the prevailing responses in all of these cases is either to become defensive or to grovel in guilt or wallow in shame. The problem with all three of these responses, is that all of them create big emotions that we then use to distance ourselves from the pain of the one we’ve hurt. If… Continue reading
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Infant Loss and Awareness Day
Today is Infant Loss and Awareness Day – and the 15th one I’ve observed as a mother who lost her child. The little boy at the top of this screen is my son. He was born the day before my 23rd birthday – the second of my three children – fifteen years ago this past… Continue reading
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Tuning In
So we’ve spent the last few weeks talking about getting to know the different parts of who we are – heart, soul, mind (part 1 and part 2) and body. We talked about how important it was for us to get to know these different parts of us, because each of these parts are designed… Continue reading
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Canaries in Coalmines …
There is this tendency to want to “fix” people. To make it so that they stop responding “inappropriately” or “fit in” better. But what if we viewed those with disability, autism or mental health issues like canaries – vulnerable yet valuable members of our community, who had the capacity to help us see when we… Continue reading
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Responding To Self-Harm and Suicide
Because of the role that worthlessness and disconnection play in self-harm and suicidality, if someone is courageous enough to tell me about what’s going on, I do my best to respond immediately with deeper connection. I might take them out for coffee, for a walk in the woods or by the water; I might invite… Continue reading
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Lean In
The other day, my partner and I were talking about when our (now 17-year-old) child was a baby. We were talking about how scared we both were. How unprepared. How completely out of our depth we felt. And it was the first time either one of us had heard that from the other. You see,… Continue reading
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Getting to Know Your … Body
You would think that given that our bodies are the external, tangible, physical parts of us, that we would all know our bodies super well. However, as someone who experienced extensive medical trauma as a child, lived with chronic pain and fatigue issues for most of my life, and grew up in a religious community that… Continue reading
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What *IS* Life Coaching, Anyway?
When I tell people that I’m a life coach, lots of people seem a bit confused about what that means. They’re not quite sure what category to put me in, or how what I have to offer might help. So I thought I might offer a bit of a clarification! First of all, life coaches… Continue reading
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Getting to Know Your … Mind (Part 2)
One of the most simple tools for understanding the brain is Dr. Siegel’s “Brain Hand”: According to Siegel, the pre-frontal cortex is the part of our brain that is capable of being rational – of helping us think through problems, reflect on previous actions and make new decisions. Awareness of the world around us – Continue reading
About the program
In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.
Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!
After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.
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