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Out from the Clutches of Worry, Fear and Control
Over on @parentingforward, @cindybrandt was talking about the way we worry as parents. She said, “Every parent worries. To love is to worry. What if that doesn’t have to be true? What if we can learn better coping mechanisms for our anxieties so that we don’t exchange them with our children? What if we don’t… Continue reading
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Foundations
It’s a cold and snowy morning but our footings for our foundation went in this morning. I always knew how important foundations were, but I hadn’t ever realised the level of work that has to go in BEFORE the foundation. These footings have been in the works for a couple of weeks now. The bars… Continue reading
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Game Changers
My new power chair has arrived!! And with it, heights I have never before experienced! I’m still testing out all the functions, but this is a game changer for me! And that seems like a pretty good opportunity to have a quick chat about mobility aids in general and wheelchairs specifically. Because so often when… Continue reading
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85%
When our son died, we were told that around 85% of marriages where they lost a child ended after five years. We were given the same statistics when first one, then two of our children were given autism diagnoses. People stopped mentioning the statistics when I got sick, but we can extrapolate. When first one,… Continue reading
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Stuck
This was me, completely stuck in the slush yesterday. It wasn’t “that much” so I thought I would be fine. Until I wasn’t. I thought my power chair had enough oomph for the job. Until it didn’t. There was nobody with me, so I don’t have the option of showing you the “big picture”. But… Continue reading
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A ‘Third Way’
Do you ever feel backed into a corner in an argument? Or forced to choose sides between polarizing forces? Perhaps in your intimate partner or family relationships? Perhaps in our wider, increasingly divisive social sphere? One of the biggest relationship-savers that Trevor and I have discovered over the last few years is to recognize when… Continue reading
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In Trouble
We’ve been looking at used accessible vans this weekend. So far, not good. We don’t have a lot for this purchase, because the #accessiblehouse is taking all of our pennies and then some this year. Now don’t get me wrong. The vans look pretty on the top and seem to run like a champ, but you get… Continue reading
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Pain
I don’t talk a lot about the pain part of my life. I somehow got the idea at a very young age that people don’t like to hear about pain – that it upsets them – and that as a result you shouldn’t ever talk about it. I also – in general – think that… Continue reading
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Lean In
Trevor and I have been married now for over twenty years – and they haven’t been easy years, either! For the longest time we really struggled when the stress levels shot up, because we were scared they would break us. So we would pull away – from each other, from the situation, from the hard… Continue reading
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National Coming Out Day
Today is National Coming Out day. This is a picture of my husband and I at our local Pride Parade this summer wearing t-shirts that said “Free Mom Hugs” and “Free Dad Hugs”. But we are more than allies. We are a straight-passing, mixed orientation marriage. That means that, in my case, I am attracted… Continue reading
About the program
In 2017 I was newly self-diagnosed with atypical autism, struggling with burnout, and striking out when it came to therapists who could address the issues I was facing. At the same time, I was building skills around life coaching, shame reduction, and trauma-informed therapy for work. Gradually I realized that what I needed – an embodied, autonomous, agency-driven coaching approach to unmasking – was not something I was going to find “out there”, but something I was going to need to create if I wanted to recover my life. This was the moment the Values Based Integration Process was born.
Having developed the program for myself – and having seen the incredible results it brought in my own life – I began to use it with coaching clients. The results were out of this world!
After conversations with Dr. Devon Price, the technique was featured in his book Unmasking Autism. With it, came interest in the technique and the decision was made to begin training coaches and therapists to help make this toolkit more readily available.
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